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Affairs
Why people stray, what an affair means and doesn’t mean, and whether trust can be rebuilt.
Notes on the wayBreaking Up & Heartbreak
Knowing when to leave, how to end things well, and getting through the pain afterwards.
Notes on the wayCompatibility
What fitting together means, which differences matter, and which ones a couple can grow around.
1 entry →Conflicts
How couples argue, repair, and learn to hear what the other person is asking for.
2 entries →Dating
How dating came to be, what modern dating and the apps ask of us, the paradox of choice, and when to stop looking.
2 entries →Finding Love
What to look for in a partner, the qualities we overrate, and the questions worth asking.
3 entries →Marriage
Deciding to commit, what marriage changes, prenups, money, and the daily work of sharing a life.
2 entries →Mature Love
What love looks like past the early stage: realistic expectations, attachment, and patience.
2 entries →Parenting
How children change a relationship, and what our own childhoods bring into it.
Notes on the wayRomanticism
The ideas about love we inherit without noticing, and what they set us up to expect.
2 entries →Sex
Intimacy and desire, closeness and distance, and keeping desire alive over the long run.
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